Friday, April 16, 2010

The Biggest Mistake

The entire life span of human being can be broadly classified into two stages. The two stages are 1) Bachelor life and 2) Married life. These two stages have contrasting features regarding the life style, attitude, behavior and thinking of person involved. It’s the rule of the universe people are meant to change over the period and those who don’t stagger through out their life. My topic is basically concerned to the 1st half of the life that’s the bachelor life.
Bachelor life according to some are the best part of human life and the happiest one too where they have least to think about the responsibilities and can live their life the way they want. People give priorities to what they want during this first half of their life. According to few it’s their career where as few go for friendship and there are distinct people whose 1st priority is love. These priorities vary with person to person.
People often ask given a choice between career and love what will be your option? Another question can be if you have to choose between friendship and love whom will you give the 1st priority. These questions seem very easy when asked as random but when you are deeply involved with these things the selection becomes much difficult then they seem to be.
The 3rd combination may be friendship and career but as we all know friendship has nothing to with career or the status of a person. Friends are friends even if you are a millionaire or a petty worker. Friendship never comes between one’s career as friends never seek friends on one’s grade (career). Friendship is not done for reasons and those who do are certainly not friends. I would suggest people to be away with those people who make friends for reasons as true friends seldom want anything from you. You are his/her friend this is more then enough for friendship.
My opinion will surely vary from one person to other. As far as the first question is concerned between career and love it depends on the thinking level as well as the maturity of the person. Many would say love is the soul of life, correct me if I am wrong if you don’t have a career then how would you feed your beloved (taking into consideration you are a male). Love doesn’t mean loving each other or spending life together it comes with immense responsibilities and many earthly matters which could be understood only when you start living together, that’s the reason why many love marriages fail in real life because they seldom look into other aspects of life other then love when they first get bonded together. Yes love is immortal but career has much effect on your love life. Being practical about things 99.9% times love succeeds when you have a career behind you other wise you would land up on a loosing side no matter how strong your love may be during your initial stages. All love bonding would give away when you don’t have a career behind you. According to me if love is true it can wait. It can wait until you stand upon your feet and can take independent steps regarding your life. I am not saying you should neglect your love and get deeply involved with your career. But when it comes between your love and career the first priority should be given to the one where your deepest interest lies. You should be in a position where you should realize which one to choose between the two because any wrong step would lead you missing the other through out your life. As far as my wits are concerned love if true will always give you a second chance to come into your life. I must make my point clear, I am not talking about 2nd love or anything like that I am talking about the true love giving you a 2nd chance to come into your life. But if you take a wrong step regarding your career you would always rue to the fact that you lost both your career and love( as I spoke earlier without career love seldom does find a way) because you didn’t take the right step at the first hand.
The first question was somewhat easier to tackle but the next question is the one where most people make a mistake and often it turns out to be a blunder for their future. Given a choice to choose between friend and love same person will give different opinion at different stages of their life. It not only varies with person to person but also from mental condition of same person at different specified time. This question is often referred to as asking a person to select between heart and brain, knowing the fact that the loss of any of the two would mean his death. The selection of one option in these stressing circumstances signifies the real character of a person.
To understand this crucial matter let me take an example of person named Anshuman who fell in love with one of his close friend. It was only when he knew that he might loose even his friendship he became much more circumspect in disclosing his love. The day he spoke about his love, he wasn’t much worried of the love rejection but the major worry was that he might loose his friend too. He spoke his heart to his beloved only when his beloved agreed whatever he may speak next; they both will be friends forever. But as I said earlier even a small err in taking a step makes you loose both your love and friendship, the same was the case with Anshuman as he never got his love but lost his friend forever. People won’t say he did a mistake but it was certainly a mistake when you look at the outcome of his life. Even the last time he talked with the person he loved he did mention that he loved her but in return he just asked her “do you atleast consider me your friend”. That girl didn’t reckon him even her friend. At that very instant Anshuman knew there is no road ahead for him and the most deplorable thing was that whatever he feared that came out to be true i.e. he fell in love and neither he got love nor his friendship survived. This indeed is the biggest mistake; he chose love ahead of friendship. Many would disagree with me and would say what’s wrong in speaking about your love to the person you love but my point is does it make any sense if the other person concerned has no feelings moreover you loose your much priced friendship?
This indeed was the biggest mistake of Anshuman but it isn’t the mistake only for Anshuman but for all those people who give preference to love rather then friendship. We must be acquainted with the fact that friendship can exist without love but love can’t exist without friendship. I know people will still argue that whatever Anshuman did can’t be considered as a mistake but according to me it’s a mistake because the entire universe is bothered about the result & the final outcome. Suppose a person studies day and night for his exams but he fails, everybody would say he didn’t study. Irrespective of the effort he made he would be conceived as a person who didn’t work hard for his exams. Similar is this situation people see the final outcome and the final outcome of Anshuman was that he lost his friend just because he fell in love with her, no matter what his feelings are for that girl, no matter how much he loves her, he will neither get his love nor his friend, so it’s a mistake in fact ‘THE BIGGEST MISTAKE ‘of his life.
Thank god I didn’t have to face such situations in my life otherwise god only knows what I would have done as it’s much easier to speak rather then facing it practically. it’s almost the end of our 1st phase of life as everyone have their career set straight ahead of them and would be looking to enhance their vocation in the near future and then comes the 2nd stage of life. As far as I am concerned I am happy with my life at present and would like to remain in this phase in the near future also.


  1. It is so sad na... I don't understand why people do this - how can you forget a friend just because he started loving you?

    1. that's why i say "the real truth is always sad"
      i feel it's the way people tend to behave generally :(


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