Lateral Thinking ...!!!

You cannot grow until and unless you Grow with your thinking…!!!

This document is for all the parents rather than the young generation of this country…whatever I am going to speak in the following lines am sure 9 out of 10 youth will agree with me…whereas am not sure about parents though. You must have heard about the word generation gap time and again…have you ever thought what are the consequences of generation gap or how is it effecting our entire society as a whole?

I am one amongst the million youth of this country and I firmly believe everybody will vote for thoughts when I say the words like Caste ,Culture or Religion are relevant only when we are seeking admissions in any institutions or applying for job in any public sector organizations. You won’t hear about them anywhere else. Even after getting admissions or job your best mate may be from other caste or culture and you never ever give a damn about it either, as the only things that substantiate is whether they share the same frequency as you do. While making friends a person’s caste or culture is certainly not what you look into.
But what about parents? Do they accept your friends/mate the way you do?
i will answer it in the following lines but before I speak anything I must clarify few things…I am not here to criticize our elders or anybody else and this is also true that the story which I am citing may not be applicable for all the parents. I am only trying to make all our elders see the way we see the world.

This story is of a boy named James who was a Malyali Christian and a girl named Bristi a Bengali Brahmin. They both first met in the same organization for which they are working, two years ago. We know feelings are not bounded by any boundaries and when you are in love you seldom care for anything else in this world. Everything was going on well amongst them; thunderstorm arose when they spoke about it to their parents.

Parents of James as well as Bristi rejected their plea and denied of accepting any such relationship. Bristi’s parents started looking for match in their caste where as James parents started convincing James by words his decision would be fatal for their family and it would be very difficult for her younger sister to get married later on.
Both the parents are somewhat right in their thinking but are they taking the right decision?


Bristi’s parents are doing what every parent would want but as per my understanding says they are not taking the right step. They may get an eligible match for her but what about Bristi? Will she be happy? I agree parents will try to get the best possible match for her but the match that is already decided by one’s soul can never be exchanged. She will never be happy in her life. She might agree to her parents to marry someone by killing herself virtually. Her parents would be proud as they would now be able walk in the society with their heads held high. But Bristi’s life would be a hell and with time she might take all the responsibilities of her new family but believe me she won’t be the person she was. Killing the feeling of love from one’s heart is similar to killing a baby in mother’s womb. You will never be able to forgive yourself for the crime that you did, if you see from the others prospective.
Talking about James parents Yes their concern is something that shouldn’t be ignored but are they doing the right thing? No certainly not, they are also doing the same mistake what Bristi’s parents are forging. They are right in thinking about their family and their daughter’s future to be exact but this is where our thinking varies with our elders.
Lateral thinking is what I call it…why do parents think that inter caste marriage is not acceptable? Why do they think that inter caste marriage is a shame and it will ruin their family? Why can’t they accept a relationship the way we the youth accept it? In the end it’s us who has to lead the entire life with a person. If we are ready to accept a person irrespective of all the differences of caste and culture why can’t parents?

The greatest relationship in this world is the one which is bounded by love.
If parents start understanding that it’s love that determines all the relations and not any culture, they would be proud for their ward who had taken a decision to make someone their life partner who is from other culture. They would not worry about anything else like prestige in the society or about younger daughter marriage because whenever they would come across level headed society they would be respected for the bold step of accepting their sibling’s decision.

We talk about integrity, solidarity, unity amongst all the citizen of the country but when it’s time to showcase its evidence why do people take a back step? If you really believe that everyone is equal and there’s no difference between the person who is from other religion, caste or culture than why is there a big no in accepting someone to be your bride/broom?

A word to all the parents: we know you want the best for us but sometimes you have to leave on us to choose our own steps because what is best according to your views may not be the same for us as we may have other ideas. If you believe that you have given us the right morals throughout our life than be pretty sure our decision will never be a shame for you…!!!

You talk about developing/growing a nation but be Cent percent sure you cannot develop/grow a single individual even if it’s your own child until and unless you grow with your thinking …!!!

Are You living in your Past ?

If you want a practical explanation of life it would be something like this…

There’s only a single words difference between LIFE and LIE…if you are living in the past you are certainly playing with your FUTURE (LIFE) and your life is nothing more than a LIE…A lie that can never be true, a lie where you live in your dream world, a lie which is exactly what you can describe your LIFE to be.

It only takes a single question to know where you are in your life…Do you worry about those who aren’t with you or are you happy with those who are with you?
It’s a very simple question but it decides a lot many things about your life…it decides how matured you are with your age, it decides your emotional level, your thinking level, your nature, your character… in short this simple question decides who you are and what you can be.
How do you know whether you are in your past or present?
You can easily decide whether you are living in your present or your pasts…do you know what’s that? Take a deep breath and decide what’s the most important thing in your life at present…if at any moment you get any thought related with your past…you know you are not living but dreaming…
If you are worried about your past, if you are concerned for the people you had with you in your past…it shows you are a caring person, those people from your past means a lot to you but you aren’t moving ahead in your life…you have stopped and your life has a zero value. You aren’t living in the present and sadly enough you don’t have any future. You have to realize there is no point in pondering about the dead. Past people or experiences don’t return…you can never touch the same waves of flowing water twice…you can sit on the bank of the river and think you have the same feeling of the flowing water but they are never ever the same. Similarly even if you do meet the same person after years…you know that person is never ever the same…you will never get back the person whom you knew once.
What will be your decision now…won’t it be feasible for you to live in the present and live with what you have so that you ensure them to be present with you in your future and not to lose your present by bothering about past?

This is what you call a practical life…!!!

There’s another life known as Experimental life…a life where you live through them through experiments…

Once I met a person who was living in his past… I tried to convey my message to him by various forms…in the end he said to me….I know whatever you are preaching it’s for my well being. But I have taken a decision for my life. It may seem to you that I will reach nowhere with the decision that I have taken for myself. It may lead nowhere but I want to know how it ends. I want to see the end of it. I want to see the final outcome of my decision. I may lose but I can’t take my steps back, even if I end on losing side my head will be held high while asking the very reason to GOD.
If I go on to achieve my past…I would be inspirational for all those people who still believes that one day their past would be their present and their future. If I lose they will know the results beforehand and will take it as a lesson for their lives…and they won’t follow my footsteps…in either way I would be guiding people to their destination. My life’s story will guide them through…
if you lead your life with examples you would never fail…my life would be an example for all those people who are still waiting for their past…
A person who is strong enough to bear all adversities can only stick to a decision for his life…those who fear, change their decisions and in turn change themselves and call it -Living a practical life

This is what you call an experimental life…A life full of obstacles, a life where you never know whether you will ever go on to achieve what you want. A life full of uncertainties…A life with struggle…a life of believing in yourself….a life of trust…a life where you come across your past every moment of your life.

Are you living a PRACTICAL or an EXPERIMENTAL life?
You can’t sail with one feet on both …you have to choose one, Choice is yours both have its own pros and cons…but before you choose any of the steps make sure you won’t regret afterwards…because life gives you only a single delivery in which you have to decide what you are going to do…either hit a six and make merry of the opportunities that you have got or make a mess of it and get out for a duck.

I have taken my decision…Now it’s upon you to decide what you prefer for your life…!!!
Everybody can give explanations for their life’s twists n turns but there are few who don’t prefer to speak not because they are afraid…it’s because they value someone’s life more than their own…!!!